Speaker 1: 0:00

Hello, ladies and gentlemen, it's Thanksgiving in America right now and I thought that would be a great opportunity to sit down and tell you all that I'm very, very, very thankful for you. When I first started my website about four years ago, I really didn't have big plans for it. Part of the reason why I started a website was I was on a forum called the Good-Looking Loser forums and it was a self-improvement slash, getting laid slash, I guess, fitness as well forum and everybody on there had done so much for me and they were all so nice to me and they had gotten me or helped me achieve so many amazing things. All of my sex life and all of those achievements come from those forums or because of those forums, and obviously the author of the website, chris from Good-Looking Loser, all of his articles, and it was this beautiful community and I really wanted to give back. And so, as I was working on my self-improvement, as I was getting laid, I would help as many people as I possibly could and I was writing these big long messages to people that were, like you know, 20 paragraphs long and I would do everything I could to help somebody, because a lot of those people were helping me and I'd had so many huge epiphanies and life-changing moments, because some stranger on the internet wanted to help me for free on an underground forum and so I gave back, and there were so many times where you know, eventually you start to see that the same patterns crop up over and over again, all the same questions keep coming up, and so I basically started keeping a spreadsheet of different posts that I had written on these forums and so if somebody had a similar question, I would pull out my spreadsheet and I would find the link to the previous post and I'd say, here go, I already wrote a reply to this guy. Go and read this. It pretty much applies to you.

Speaker 1: 2:04

And after a while that became pretty unmanageable because, you know, I was in the spreadsheet, I had to keep a list of like tags and keywords and so that I could hopefully find the right post. And sometimes I wouldn't be able to find the post and I would know that there was a post that I had written that could help this person. But I was like, fuck, I can't remember where this post is. I can't remember, like, who I wrote it to, and I would search on the forums and the search wasn't brilliant, and I wouldn't be able to find it and I would get kind of frustrated. So then I would type out the exact same answer, basically and you all know that I like to talk and I'm very wordy sometimes and so I would sit there and write another 20 paragraphs. And it felt very frustrating because it's like I've already written this 20 paragraphs and now I'm just writing it again to someone new.

Speaker 1: 2:52

And that happened quite a lot, where I found myself repeating myself and saying the same things to the two different people, and so I kind of wanted a solution, and for a while I'd already been thinking of starting my own website, and all I was gonna do was just have some sort of basic blog and just copy paste some of the posts that I had written for other people, but just edit them to like, take out the person's name and just make it a bit more general so that I could give it to like any random stranger. And I'd had, by that point, quite a few people sort of nagging me, because by this point I was a moderator on those forums and I had quite a few people sort of nagging me in a good way. You know, start your own website, start your own website. And there was one guy in particular who was my friend back then and we were kind of we'd keep each other accountable and we were good friends and he was working on his sex life as well and his username was DAGDAG and he in particular kept pushing me and he would like send me private messages and he emailed me a couple of times and he's like come on, bro, I like stop it, stop being a pussy. Like, start this website, start it.

Speaker 1: 3:58

And so finally, literally just to shut him up, I registered a domain name kill the inner losercom which I obviously later changed to kill your inner loser. But I registered kill the inner losercom and I put up a photo of his face and I photoshopped like a crown on you know, likea king's crown on top of it and I wrote the big word like in giant letters I wrote DAG as king, and then in smaller letters I wrote something like you know you can stop nagging me now I finally made a website, shut up like, and that was my website. And no, I don't have a screenshot of that, I don't have like an old archive copy of that me. Actually, maybe you could use like the wayback machine or something I don't know. But yeah, that was, that was my website for a little while, so I just had a picture of his face. There you go, that's my website.

Speaker 1: 4:53

And he then obviously kept pushing me over the next couple of weeks and he's like come on, man, you got to write an article or you got to like make it pretty, make it a beautiful blog, like do something, like you can't just have my Fucking face on this website. People, you know You're helping a lot of people in the forums. People want a website from you, and there were other people asking me to start a website too. So finally, I Spent like a week and this was my form of procrastinating, but it was so much fun. I Spent like a week just coming up with the design for the website.

Speaker 1: 5:22

I tried all of these different WordPress templates. I tried different color schemes. I knew I wanted something that was like dark text, like sorry, dark background light text, because I'm a big fan of, you know, night mode or dark mode on every app and shit. And so I I came up with the design, came up with a logo the logo that a lot of you have seen, that I use for kill. You're an illusor, you know it's got the kind of orangey hands and they kind of open, and then there's a silhouette of a person. That's just a photo I did during my 365 day project, when I did a photography, like a photo, every single day. So I was like, I really like this. I think this looks like a nice background. I put some text over the top of it again. It used to be kill the anelusa.

Speaker 1: 6:10

I came up with the motto, I think at that time you know, if I can do it, you sure as hell can too. I really liked that. I thought that clicked. That was kind of what I was saying to people on the forums anyway, when people were feeling doubts and Insecurities and thinking that they couldn't do it. I was like, man, I felt like that the entire time and I've done it. And I was depressed. I was suicidal. You know, I went to jail when I was young. All of this shit. If I can do this shit, you can too.

Speaker 1: 6:36

So I spent like a good week or two just coming up with the design, literally just so I could procrastinate, because I was really scared to write an article, because then it would feel official, you know. And so I procrastinated, procrastinated and then finally I just I got so sick of not starting an article because I was putting all this pressure on myself that I had to be perfect, that I had to I Don't know somehow be good at something that I hadn't done before, and I mean, I'd sort of written articles before. Well, okay, I had written articles before when I was a photographer, and Obviously I was writing long posts to people on the forums, but I was still fucking terrified. It was really really, really scary. And so finally, just out of frustration, I was like right, I have one fucking hour, one hour I have to publish an article. It was like 8 pm At night or some shit, and I was like I got one fucking hour and I have to publish a goddamn article.

Speaker 1: 7:30

And I turned my stopwatch on and I hit start and it started counting down from one hour and I was like fuck, what the hell am I gonna write? And so I ended up writing. I spent like five minutes sitting there going what am I gonna write? What the hell? I was like freaking out. And then I was like I ended up writing this kind of meta article about how I was struggling to write an article.

Speaker 1: 7:51

And so I Basically started with the premise of look, I'm really struggling to write this article right now. I've given myself one hour. I'm really scared, but I guess I'm just gonna do this thing. I don't feel like I'm ready to start this website. I don't feel like I'm ready to give any of you advice. I don't know what the fuck I'm doing.

Speaker 1: 8:10

I'm I'm just a guy that's learned how to have sex and by that point I was having a fair amount of sex. I think I was having like threesomes and shit. Yeah, I already was, because I'd already been seeing Imogen, my girlfriend now, but we were casual at the time. We'd already been seeing each other for a while, we'd already been having some threesomes. So I knew what I was doing with sex, but I I still felt like I didn't really know what I was doing and I was like I have all this imposter syndrome. I can't help people. Like who the fuck am I to think that I can help people? And so I wrote this article about giving yourself permission to Suck, which was what I was doing, you know not being perfect and just getting started. I wrote it in like I don't know 45 minutes. I hit publish and I was like holy shit, I have a website.

Speaker 1: 8:51

Now I literally have a website, and from there I started writing some more articles. I wrote some about dating, I wrote some about cold approach, I wrote some about Tinder. I wrote little bits and pieces and Kind of started flushing it out, and I really had no plans for it at the time. I, honestly, was just happy if some of the people on the forums would find it useful, and so what I would do is, anytime someone on the forums had a question, which I was already answering their questions anyway with these long posts, but now what I could do is I could answer their question in an article and then I could say hey, dude, I wrote you an article, here you go. And Then, anytime anyone else had that same problem or that same question, I could be like here you go, I already wrote an article for this. I wrote it for someone else, but it applies to you, here you go. And so my earliest content was literally just answering people's questions and talking about topics that would come up on the forums, and I think that's something that I've, or that is something that I've kept up to this day.

Speaker 1: 9:49

I really like that format. I don't do it with every piece of content, obviously, but You'll hear a lot of my content. I Will start it out by saying hey guys, like in my coaching program, we were having this discussion. Or you know, this guy in my program or this girl in my program was struggling with this and here's my answer. Or I'll on my YouTube channel, if you go on my YouTube channel. I've replied to YouTube comments and sometimes I'll even show them on the screen, like show the question on the screen and then I'll just fucking answer it and react to it. So I really like that format. It's it's very easy because it's sort of you don't have to Think of what you're gonna say, you're kind of just reacting to the person's question and answering it like on the fly. I find that very easy. So that was how I wrote my first few articles.

Speaker 1: 10:35

Eventually I knew I was gonna do some sort of big tinder guide, but I really didn't think it was gonna be as big as it was. You know it ended up being five parts and 130,000 words and, for reference, an average novel is about 20 to 30,000 words. So I wrote the equivalent of like five or six novels as a guide. That's completely free and that took a long time. That took like nine months or so to write and my god, that was a big fucking project. But you know, I wrote the tinder guide, wrote more articles.

Speaker 1: 11:09

Eventually I started a podcast and I was really terrified to do that. The second episode that I ever released on that podcast is called give yourself permission to suck. Because I was really terrified and I was like I'm just gonna do the same thing I did on my blog. This is gonna be awful, I'm not gonna be good at it, I'm gonna give myself permission to suck and I'm gonna do it. And there's something insane like 500 episodes published now and that's man. That just blows my mind. I can't believe there's that much fucking content there. I can't believe this.

Speaker 1: 11:40

Many of you tune in, you know, every week or every couple of days and listen to what I have to say when I'm just talking to a microphone in my apartment. I'm really grateful. I started my YouTube channel as well, not too long after my podcast Maybe, I don't know, a hundred days after my podcast, and that was intimidating. That was terrifying. I still, to this day, find it easier to do this podcast compared to my YouTube channel. Like, I just find this content so much easier because I get to just sit down, I don't have to look at the camera, I don't have to think about how I look on camera. I can just I don't know I feel more present with you guys and girls. It feels more intimate, it feels more like I'm I'm just talking to you directly, whereas YouTube does feel a lot more. I Don't know, intimidating might be the word. Any content creator will know what I mean if they've ever done podcasts, and YouTube Podcasts just seem to be easier because there's no camera on you.

Speaker 1: 12:36

But I started the YouTube channel, started building that up at the time of this recording. We're getting towards 9,000. We're at like 8,000, 8 and a half thousand, 8,200, something like that subscribers, which is just absolutely fucking mind-blowing. When I started that man that it took me like a year or two to get to a thousand subscribers. It took me like a good three years to get to like three thousand subscribers and then in this past year We've almost tripled this subscriber count. You know. We've gone from like three thousand to, like I said, we'll probably be at ten thousand by the end of the year, which is just Fucking insane to me. You know, really, really, really insane, and I never believed, I never thought any of this, this, this shit wasn't even on my radar. Like making any money from this was never on my radar until about like a year or two into it. Like I had already written like a hundred articles and At that point I was like man, I'm struggling so much with my job.

Speaker 1: 13:35

Like like having to go to my job because I was commuting about Two and a half hours to work and then two and a half hours back from work and I would write articles on the train and I Didn't have phone signals so the internet would drop out and I'd have to write the articles in notepad and my laptop. I had this shitty old laptop that would only have about 35 minutes of battery life and so then I would have to use my phone to write the rest of the article. And it's really hard to type an article on your phone, by the way. And that was just what I was doing. And I would like come home and just Stay up late writing articles and then have to get up the next morning at like 4 am and it was just such a wild time. You know, in the kill, you're in a loser days and I never Like.

Speaker 1: 14:18

I said, I never thought I would make any money from it and it wasn't even on my radar. It wasn't even something I thought was possible for the first couple of years. But I remember thinking, man, imagine if I could make just a tiny bit of money from this, and then I wouldn't have to work so much. You know, I could take a little bit of time off. I could take a day off every week. I could work one day less because I had a fairly flexible job. I was working in a warehouse at that time and I thought, man, imagine if I could have one day off a week. I could probably write like five articles in that day. And I was thinking, like man, I could help so many people. Think how many people those articles might help. And I felt this tremendous sense of like man every day. Every single second that I might work is the second in my life that I'm not helping someone, that I'm not doing something to move this shit forward, and it ate away at me.

Speaker 1: 15:08

It was painful, and so the goal at the start was I just want to earn one dollar from my website, and that took me like six months, mostly because I didn't give myself permission, which is why it's so humbling and also beautiful. Lots of my coaching clients at this point have earned, like fuck, their first five hundred dollars from a new business that we help them start. They earn their first five hundred dollars in like God, some of them in the first like month. And I'm just like, oh my fucky god, it took me like six months to give myself permission to earn one dollar and you've earned five hundred times that in one sixth of the time. Like, do the math on that. It's like you're three thousand times quicker than I was at this shit, which is just again so humbling and also I'm really grateful for that. It means I get to save someone else from Going all of that time, I mean hell. We even had one guy who at the at this point in time he finished his coaching like two months ago. He's already on like three thousand dollars or something. And I say, oh my god, dude, like that's astronomically more than I earned in half of the time. You know you've earned like six thousand times quicker than I did. So I love that shit, right, like.

Speaker 1: 16:16

But in those early days, yeah, I just wanted to earn a dollar to even prove to myself that it was possible. I don't know why I thought it was impossible, but it just seemed like such a pipe dream. I never thought it would be possible. And then I did. I ended my first dollar and then my first twenty dollars, and first fifty and then a hundred, and the prices Slowly, slowly, slowly raised up over time. You know, back in those days I was charging. I did the first call for free and then I was charging, like you know, twenty dollars an hour, I think. I started at like ten dollars an hour or something. I Slowly put up the price.

Speaker 1: 16:50

I remember each time I put the price up I was utterly terrified that it would be too much money or that no one would pay you, or that they would say I was a sellout whore. You know All of these kind of fears and insecurities and pain points I had. And it was always okay, like every time I put the price up I was able to give more value because Obviously, if you're charging more, then you're more grateful for the client who pays that money. And so I would just feel this tremendous sense of gratitude, and I have felt this tremendous sense of gratitude the entire time I've been doing this, even as I sit here right now with you guys and girls, I just feel insane Gratitude. That's obviously what this podcast today is about. Right like, I'm here telling you that I'm grateful for you and I slowly put my prices up. And Before I knew it, you know, I was at a point where I couldn't pay the bills.

Speaker 1: 17:44

But Lockdowns happened in 2020 and the world went a bit insane and gave into their fears and my job, you know, the business had to close because you know government regulations said you have to close everything. And the business was closed for like six months. We had like very severe lockdowns in Australia and it didn't look like it was going to open back up. It didn't look like it was allowed to open back up because it was deemed a non-essential business and From that point, I was like I guess it's fucking sink or swim. I have no savings. I have, you know, taken out a $20,000 bank loan. I owe this money in tax, like I don't know how I'm ever going to pay the bills. But fuck it, I'm going to try. And I couldn't pay the bills. You know, god took probably three years to be at a point where I can now only just pay the bills. Okay, I can pay the bills now, but we still have like a big tax debt. We've got about $50,000 that we owe. But you know, I'm okay now. I'm still a little bit stressed about money quite a lot, hence the big push lately to bring in more coaching clients and stuff like that. But I'm okay now.

Speaker 1: 18:54

But it took quite a few years and the initial couple of years were fucking terrifying. They really were and I was dealing with lockdowns and depression from that and a strange sense that the rest of the world had gone insane, which, looking back now, yes, they absolutely had. The vast majority of human beings were believing their own stories at that time you know, during 2020 and 2021 and 2022, believing that the world was going to end, that they were somehow going to die of a disease where the average or the median age of death is like 86, 86 years old and 30 year olds are worrying about dying. And we got through that and slowly built things up and, you know, had a bunch of moves, had a bunch of frustrations, had a bunch of stress, had a bunch of lots of believing our own stories as well, and got through all of that and, you know, have kind of just built this project up since then.

Speaker 1: 19:57

Now, at a point where the coaching you know the price that we're able to charge for it is 10,000 million times more than I ever could have hoped and dreamed. And I sometimes look at that number and I feel like a fraudster or like man. I can't charge that much. That's, that's insane. You're ripping people off and yet every single person who comes through the program, pretty much without exception you know there might be one or two exceptions here or there, but pretty much without exception Everybody's like holy fuck, man, like you could have charged me more than this. Like you changed my life. You guys changed my life. This is amazing. And so, man, that's just humbling as well to be able to charge that much money.

Speaker 1: 20:35

And then people tell you that they're grateful for you, you know, and then they've given you this huge life changing sum of money and I can't help but think like man, I'm fucking grateful for you. And so coaching feels like this beautiful reciprocal gratitude relationship where I just sit there and I'm like I'm so grateful for all of you and I tell my coaching clients that all the time I post, like basically every fucking two weeks, I'm like I am so grateful for all of you. Oh my God, I'm so grateful for all of you. Obviously, I tell all of you listening as well as often as I can. I just feel this tremendous sense of gratitude that I get to sit here in my cute little apartment and talk into this microphone or talk into the camera when I'm doing YouTube videos and I get to just help people and then people tell me that they're grateful. It's like are you fucking kidding me? Like I'm the one that's grateful.

Speaker 1: 21:27

You all pay my bills, you all let me keep doing this. You all helped me quit the nine to five. You all gave me something that I literally thought was impossible. I didn't think that I could make any money from this. Like I said, I didn't think I could make a dollar from this project. That wasn't even the intention for the first. It just wasn't even on my radar. I was like there's no way you can make money from trying to help people get laid. We're talking about sex and dating like fuck no.

Speaker 1: 21:52

And the content slowly expanded as well, and I remember how terrified I was when I first started talking about relationships. I was really terrified to talk about that stuff on YouTube and on here. I was really terrified to talk about making money. I still feel somewhat of imposter syndrome for that because my money isn't consistent and I still have a big tax debt. That's why I don't do a lot of content around business. It's part of the drive. It's probably the biggest motivation I have for why I want to make money and pay off this tax debt is so that I can feel comfortable giving all of you some money, advice and helping you start your businesses.

Speaker 1: 22:28

And obviously I already give some advice. I've already done quite a few videos, especially on YouTube. I've done like how to guides on how to start a business, how to do content creation, like the proper in depth guides. So those are on my YouTube channel. There's a playlist for business and money. You can just check that out.

Speaker 1: 22:45

And obviously we coach people in the coaching group on starting businesses and we've had some guys do insane shit. You know Laz is one who went from $20,000 a month. We helped him get up to $45,000 a month. Joe is another really good one. Shout out to Joe. He started his own photography business while he was in the coaching program and I hear at this point he's earning like $15,000 a month every month, which is just insane. You know. We've had another guy, marcus, who's only like two or three months into his business and he's already earned something like $3,000 or something like that. So I can obviously help people with money, but there is a sense of like holding back a little bit because I'm not as far along with the business stuff and I'm not consistent. I'm not as consistent with earning money as I would like to be, and obviously that's a mission that I'm working on right now. You know, there's some other things I want to help people with, but the point is I slowly opened up my content over the years and talked about relationships, started talking about more spiritual concepts of like, happiness and peace and I was really terrified to talk about that stuff.

Speaker 1: 23:55

Started talking about love and self-love and giving love to other human beings. I was really terrified to talk about that stuff. I honestly thought that a lot of people would have a negative reaction to it. I was sort of scared of. You know, if I start talking about love and being loving to others and kindness and compassion, that people will be like that's gay bro. Like what? Are you gay bro? Like you know, I had all these sort of male bravado IDs in my head and none of them turned out to be true, by the way. Like, literally not a single person was like bro, that's gay. Like saying I love you to yourself in the mirror, that's gay, bro. Like why are you doing that? Literally, nobody said that and the reaction has actually been the opposite. The reaction from a lot of men and a lot of women, but particularly men, has been holy shit, dude.

Speaker 1: 24:40

I tried saying I love you to myself in the mirror and I couldn't do it and I was like why is this so fucking hard? Like I'm literally just saying three words. I mean, I say I love you to my family. I've said I love you to women, why can't I fucking say this to myself? And then finally they keep trying and they do it and they're like holy shit, dude. I literally said I love you to myself and, like bro, it felt life changing. What the hell, man? I feel like I'm starting to get to know myself, or some shit dude. Like I feel like I've neglected myself my entire life. Like I've never paid attention to me. I've been too busy paying attention to external things and other people. Fuck man. Like thank you for this exercise.

Speaker 1: 25:15

So you know these, these topics that I've slowly opened up about and given myself permission to talk about every single one. It's been so amazing as I've started talking about it, you know, as I've opened up and shared my insecurities and my vulnerabilities, and especially doing that two part series on YouTube about how I went to prison when I was like 19. That was really fucking terrifying to talk about. Talking about some of my goals and dreams and embracing the fact that I want to make enough money to pay off the tax debt and I want to make some money so that it's consistent and I don't have to sort of worry about when the next coach and client is going to sign up, like as I've embraced these things that have scared me to talk about. Beautiful things have happened and all of that has been a gift that all of you have given me and I'm really, really, really grateful for that.

Speaker 1: 26:02

Again, I can't believe that I get to sit here and pay the bills from this shit. You know what I mean. I get the end of the day, as much as I'm here to help all of you. I do this channel for me, I do this podcast for me, I do my YouTube channel and I do my blog for me. All of that is for me Like, literally, I benefit more than any of you.

Speaker 1: 26:24

You know I could write 10,000 pieces of content and the honest truth of it is I benefit more from all of that content. It helps cement my ideas in my head. It helps me figure out what I really do believe. It helps me try and get towards some sort of truth. Over time it helps me, dare I say it, it's almost like a self-improvement journey of writing. It's almost like a spiritual mission, like a spiritual journey. As I write and share and talk and speak and get all these ideas out, I get to evolve, maybe more than all of you. Obviously, you all come along for the ride and I'm trying to do content that helps you. You know I'm not just sitting here talking into a microphone about random shit. I'm trying to make it beneficial and useful for you. But I really do feel like I benefit the most and that's why I can't help but sit here and say I'm so grateful for all of you. I'm grateful that you listen, I'm grateful that you've improved your own labs. I'm grateful for all of you that leave comments on YouTube or send me an email and tell me what you've been up to, or you share your victories or you share your struggles. I'm grateful for that too, that you're so open. I'm grateful that you care about me. I'm grateful, maybe even more so, that you care about each other.

Speaker 1: 27:35

I think especially on YouTube, I know, here on Spotify, or if you're listening on Apple podcasts or wherever you're listening, I know there's not really much of a community with podcasts. It's more that you're just listening. But if you haven't already come over to the YouTube channel and just check out the comments Like everybody's so fucking nice to each other. Honestly, especially when someone's really struggling, like if somebody opens up and says, oh, I'm really struggling with this, there'll be like multiple people that reply to that and they're like, bro, it's okay, you got this. Or, hey, woman, like you're doing good. Like keep it up. Just, you know, try this, do this, do this, you got this. Like everybody's so goddamn nice.

Speaker 1: 28:09

There's such a strong sense of community and I'm really really, really grateful for that. I think we have such an insanely positive community. Like I've been on other content creators that are in a similar sphere to us. I guess like general self-improvement, you know, sex and dating, that kind of sphere and I've seen their comments section and there's often like a lot of negative comments, there's a lot of argumentative comments. There's a lot of people pulling each other down and disagreeing with each other and mocking each other, and seeing things like this is cringe, bro, and like that kind of stuff. We just don't have any of that. Like we really don't. We've fostered this incredibly positive community where everybody's so fucking nice to each other and so encouraging and nobody talks anybody else out of their goals and there are no stupid questions. And you know, when I say there are no stupid questions, I mean everybody understands the concept that there is no stupid question. Like you can ask the dumbest question ever, and it's not dumb, it's an honest question. You just didn't know the answer. That's not dumb. Like we all understand that concept. And so nobody mocks anyone else and says, oh, that's a stupid question, bro. Like nobody is sarcastic. Everybody's so nice and welcoming and kind and uplifting and everybody just wants the best for each other, and it's basically like a 100% rate of that. Like 100% of the YouTube comments are nice.

Speaker 1: 29:32

Every now and then I'll get a negative comment. Sure, I delete those, or I will half the time. I don't even delete them, I only delete the ones that don't make any sense, like if someone's like you know, every now and then you get weird comments where it's like you don't even know what the person is saying. It's like they're watching some different video and they're writing nonsense. Like it literally makes no sense, I'll hide those comments. Or if somebody comes in and says you should kill yourself, then yes, I'm going to hide that comment. But even the comments that are negative, I will jump in there and I'll be like, because I've had some that are just very negative.

Speaker 1: 30:03

So even some that are like you should kill yourself, I'll jump in there and I'll be like, hey, it sounds like maybe you're hurting or you're not in a good place. Is there anything that I or the community can do for you? Because obviously, if someone's saying go kill yourself, do you think that that person is happy? Do you think that person is in a good place in their life? Probably not right. If you just won the lottery, or you just started a beautiful relationship, or you just got married, or you just got a promotion at work, or you're really happy and fulfilled with yourself, or you love yourself, or you just really like waking up every day, are you going to go out and tell other people to kill themselves. No, you're not even capable of that.

Speaker 1: 30:39

So you know, we've replied to most of us, replied to even the negative comments, and we just say like, hey, man, are you okay? Is there anything we can do for you? How's it going? Like, what do you need? What can we do for you? Can we help you in any way? It's just such a wonderful community and I have all of you to thank for that. I'm so unbelievably grateful for that.

Speaker 1: 30:58

So I guess I'll wrap up and say thank you again. I'm grateful again. I'm probably going to do messages like this. I don't know how often do I tell you, guys and girls that I'm grateful, maybe like once every three months or so. So expect more of this. But it's because I am, it's because I'm just filled with this sense of gratitude, almost to the point where sometimes I just feel like crying with joy, and sometimes I do literally cry with joy. I'll just be walking around outside smiling and, you know, tears in my eyes just going like man, this shit is beautiful and it really does feel like this is the very beginning. It feels very much like we're barely getting started. We've only been. We're only like four years into the Kill your In the Loser project.

Speaker 1: 31:43

I think it's about four years and there's so much more I want to do. There's so many more books I want to write. There's so many more guides I want to do. There's so much more I want to help people with. I want to start talking about business. I want to get my body to a really good point, which is something that I haven't really achieved in the past. I did once I had abs for like two weeks and then I over ate because I really didn't feel like I deserved to have abs. I had some body dysmorphia mindsets in my head for a while. But that's the next project to work on and then be able to help people with. Actually, money's the first project and then body and stuff like that. But yeah, I have big plans for this place and I want to make more money so that I can start the next chapter, which will be spoiler alert.

Speaker 1: 32:29

I have a big idea or a goal in mind where, when I'm making enough money, I can have these little challenges or these little like community challenges where basically I'll say all right, this month I'm giving away $500 to whoever thinks they can use that money to make the most amount of people smile. You tell me how you're going to use the money and whichever presentation, whichever idea sounds the best to me, I'll give that person $500 and then they'll go out and make that thing happen. So that might be like you want to go and give 50 roses or 100 roses to random strangers and make some of them smile. Or it might be like your little cousin, your little brother or something has never really had a good birthday party because none of you have any money and your family's always been sort of poor. You want to buy him a fucking Xbox or some shit and you want to see the smile in his face. Whatever the hell people want to come up with to use that money, then I'll give them $500, and maybe we'd do that once a month or once every three months, and I want to start giving away money to literally make the world a better place or to make people smile or to just share a little bit of joy. So that's a mission that I have for sure.

Speaker 1: 33:39

I also would like to be able to pay Cam, my friend and my assistant coach, a little bit more, because he does an insane amount of work and effort and he puts so much love into this community, like I really wouldn't be here without him, so I'm super grateful to him. I would like to be able to pay Ed and Taylor, who are two of my coaches in the program, a little bit of money, because right now they're doing it for free, which I'm so humbled by and I'm so grateful for. But I'd like to be able to give them a little bit of money, even if it's just a token amount, you know, a couple hundred bucks, to say hey, thank you, and I'd like to slowly raise that over time. You know, I'd like to be able to bring in more coaches maybe a bodybuilding coach or something like that and pay them and have them as part of the coaching group so that, like you, would get free access to them. That's kind of the mission for the program is to just pour more money into it, pour more money into this community, because, at the end of the day, I want us all to build something really beautiful here, and money definitely allows us to do that. Plus, then I won't be stressed about money and I'll be able to relax a little bit more. So there's that too. That's a nice bonus too. But yeah, I have all these big projects and big plans in mind.

Speaker 1: 34:46

Obviously, another plan or another mission that I'm working on or have already done is making more video courses and ebooks, and I can pour a lot of love and time into them. You know, like the last one, I just did the play to win, how I built a winners mindset, that video course. I put probably three months of like nonstop effort into that, like that was basically my full time job, like you know, eight to 10 hours a day, just six or seven days a week, six days a week because I take a day off but I put so much effort into that and I like the. I like the route that we're going down, where I'm saying to everybody you can pay whatever you want for that, even if that's just a dollar. We've so far had like 300 people buy it in the last month, which is insane. I honestly would have been happy if like 30 people had bought it, and so we've had all these people buy it and lots of them have just paid a dollar and I think that's fucking amazing. It's the route that I want to go down. So I'm going to keep doing this with all of the video courses.

Speaker 1: 35:46

I'm basically writing this in stone and setting this in stone and saying, yeah, I kind of like the idea of having every paid product that I ever release being just $1. I don't know, it feels kind of like, feels beautiful, it feels really good. I really like being able to say, hey, I put three months of effort into this shit, I poured my heart and soul into this and it's yours for whatever you want to pay me, you can pay me $1. And lots of people have paid more than that. I've had multiple people pay me like 50, 80, $100, which is just like fucking humbling itself. But I really like that. Somebody can grab these video courses for a dollar, like I really like that. I really like that. So we're going to keep that up. Also, obviously, the Tinder guide is free. The Tinder guide is like fucking massive and that's free.

Speaker 1: 36:32

I like this style of doing things. It means that I don't have to feel that like resistance. I don't have to force you to pay me money, because if I'm charging you, if I was to charge like, I honestly thought of charging $1,000 for the video course because I just put so much into it and it's it's life changing shit. If you use that video course, the play to win video course, and you actually implement even just one of the chapters, let alone all 11 of the chapters. But if you just picked one chapter and applied that to your life, that's life changing shit. The entire rest of your life would change, and so I knew that I could have charged like $1,000 or more for that.

Speaker 1: 37:11

But if I do that, then I have to use some form of coercion or marketing or sales or motivation whatever you want to call it persuasion. I have to get you really amped up to spend $1,000, because $1,000 is quite a lot. But if I only charge you $1, I don't have to motivate you for that. I don't have to use any techniques. I don't have to use sleight of hand or persuasion or any of this kind of stuff.

Speaker 1: 37:35

I can just be, I guess, have an abundance mindset with it, or I can have an outcome independence. I can be like yo. This course will change your life and here's how it changed my life. Like here's how all the concepts in it changed my life. It's yours, you can pay whatever you want for it and if not, that's fine, like if you honestly weren't even willing to try to just take a leap of faith and pay one fucking dollar, then obviously you're just not interested and that's cool. Like there's no persuasion there, there's no forcing, there's no trying to get you amped up to sell it to you. You know what I mean Take it or leave it.

Speaker 1: 38:10

It's kind of like that mindset and that's the mindset that I have with dating and women, obviously, and friends and everything else. It's like yo, here's what I offer with BDSM and sex and all of that kind of stuff. If you like it, awesome, let's do something together. If not, that's cool too. I'll go talk to somebody else. There's somebody else out there that wants to do all of this stuff. I have evidence of that. I have hundreds of pieces of evidence of all the women that did sleep with me and try all this shit. So I don't care if you do or not. Go do whatever you want to do with someone else. That's beautiful. And so I really like that mindset with the video courses and the books and stuff like that.

Speaker 1: 38:47

Obviously, the coaching still costs what it costs, but I even then have like a mini version of that. You know the two hundred dollar coaching calls and I think I'm gonna keep those around for a little while. So they're roughly an hour, although they often end up being like two hours or so, but that feels like a nice price point. You know, most people can get together two hundred dollars. Everyone can get together two hundred dollars. There will be some exceptions to that, but two hundred dollars is a nice enough price point that I don't really have to force for that either. And then some of those people go on to pay for the big coaching program and even if they take a payment plan or whatever. But the point is there's More options, I guess, for people to help themselves and change their life, and all of that at different price points now, which feels nice.

Speaker 1: 39:32

You know, before I did kind of feel like you know, the coaching was like thousands of dollars and you either take the coaching program or Do it on your own, you know, and there's nothing wrong with that, like If anyone else is starting their own business or offering a service, you don't have to offer everyone in the world your product, obviously. But there were just so many people that were emailing me and they're like man, like I really want your help, andy, but I just don't have thousands of dollars for the coaching program, man, and even if I take a payment plan I don't know, dude, like I could, but I'm scared. Blah, blah, blah. It feels nice to be like I just take the one dollar book, then take the one dollar video course. It's like, yes, it's not as effective as a coaching program, obviously, but there's still a lot there, so it feels like I'm not neglecting anyone anymore. So that's part of the mission building that shit up, continuing to build up the community, continuing to do more content.

Speaker 1: 40:31

Obviously, on my YouTube channel right now, I'm doing like one video. I'm doing multiple videos every single day. So if you haven't checked me out on YouTube, there is that on offer. You can go and have a look at that. But I'm really grateful for all of you. Let's keep building something beautiful with this community, with this project. I'll keep doing my thing. You all keep doing your thing. Obviously, if you want help with that, there's the video courses, there's the coaching. I'll leave all the links in the description below to that. We'd love to have you in the program, would love to help you in whatever way we can, but more than anything, thank you. Thank you for being here, thank you for helping me become a better person. Thank you for all the gifts that all of you have given me. Thank you.