Success Requires Action, Not Perfection

Speaker 1 0:01

Ladies and gentle men , andy , here I went from depressed and suicidal to living a life of sexual and financial abundance and joy . If I can do it , you sure as hell can too . Success does not require you to have absolutely no vices . There is this sort of sentiment in self-improvement and definitely , definitely in men's self-improvement circles , that we have to completely eliminate all of our vices and do no fap and go monk mode and get rid of all porn and social media is ruining your life and turn the TV off and all of that . And I agree with a lot of that sentiment . But I think a lot of people go absolutely crazy in that direction and they sort of put the cart before the horse . And so let's say they have a goal of I want an amazing sex life . I've looked at what Andy has done . I think that's cool . I want to go and do the same sort of thing . Okay , my first step is to completely eliminate my porn addiction , and then I have to completely eliminate jerking off , and then I have to sort of turn off YouTube and stop playing video games , and then I have to cut out alcohol and junk food And then , after I've done all of that , then I will go talk to women , absolutely backwards thinking A lot of those things might take years for you to give up . If you have been looking at porn for most of your life , like I have , ever since I was a teen boy , porn is still something that I look at from time to time . I would like to never look at it , but I'm slowly , slowly , getting towards destination zero . It isn't something that I have completely overcome . Video games I still play video games from time to time . Youtube I definitely still watch YouTube from time to time . Caffeine something that I've given up , but I will still have caffeine from time to time .

Speaker 1 1:49

I'm not perfect with all of my vices . The difference between me and you if I'm someone that you look up to and you like some of the goals that I've achieved , then you want to do the same thing . The only difference , or one of the only differences between me and you is I just take more action than you . I have just taken more action than you over a longer period of time . It's not that I've given up all my vices . It's not that I'm perfect . It's not that I never self-medicate and never waste time And I'm just this Buddhist monk who can just say no , and I have amazing discipline and I have great impulse control . No , i have fucking not the best impulse control at times . I just also take action , and so what I really want to drill into your heads here is success doesn't come from you giving up all your vices . If you give up all of your vices , all you're doing is then just sitting there and you're neutral . You haven't achieved anything . You've just not done the things that were sort of you know addictions , but you haven't actually achieved jack shit .

Speaker 1 2:47

And success , if it is you , you know reaching goals with women , reaching goals with money , reaching goals with your body , with friends , with social life , whatever it might be it requires certain steps to be taken . So , for instance , if you want an amazing sex life , you are going to have to talk to tens of thousands of women , like I have . If you want to make $50,000 in a month , like I have , you are going to have to help thousands or tens of thousands of people , or at least that's the way I've done it and the way most of my coaching class have done it . There are certain steps that you have to take to reach some of the goals that you guys and girls have . Taking those steps is what gets you to that goal . It sounds so mind-blowingly common sense , but yet people , like I said , put the cart before the horse and they tell themselves , in order for me to take those steps and take that action , i'm going to have to give up my vices and then it will be easier for me . No , then you will just be sitting where you are right now , a procrastinator .

Speaker 1 3:45

And that's what this is . It is a form of anxiety that you solve , or you attempt to solve , with procrastination . It's you having these fears I'm scared of success , i'm scared of failure , I'm scared of having to actually take this action , i'm scared of having to change some things . And so you avoid that and you procrastinate that by saying I will get rid of my vices first , because that's less scary . No , run towards your fears . It is the taking of action , it is the taking of those steps that will get you to the goals . It is not the giving up of vices Now , over time .

Speaker 1 4:19

Yes , you probably want less vices . I certainly do , but you guys have to understand I've had so many vices for the last eight years Porn addiction , alcoholism , poor sleep , caffeine addiction , youtube addiction , video game addiction , binge eating addiction for a long time And look at everything I've achieved in the last eight years . How ? Because I took fucking action . I didn't sit there and say I will only take action once I've solved this problem , i will only take action once I've given up my porn addiction . No , fuck that . I'm going to go out and take action .

Speaker 1 4:50

And a lot of you are thinking this completely the wrong way . You're thinking if I get rid of my porn or if I get rid of my YouTube , or if I get rid of my alcohol or whatever else , it will be easier for me to go and do the task that I want to do . You know , if I can just give up video games , it will be easier for me to get a job . If I can just put aside alcohol , it'll be so much easier for me to then start a business . You're thinking of it completely the wrong way . Think in reverse If I start working on my business , that will be massive fucking motivation to give up alcohol , because I will start to get a little bit of success from working on this new business . I will start to see some results . And then I will realize , holy shit , if I just didn't drink as much alcohol , i could probably get five times as much done , holy shit . Then I would get five times the results . Oh my god . And I've already gotten some results . So I already have the evidence that I can get results .

Speaker 1 5:42

Let me turbo charge this thing . Or if it's women , if you say men , if I just started no fap a lot of you say if I just started no fap , then I'd have more motivation to go out and talk to women . No , i am telling you , as the person who has seen this hundreds of fucking , more than that at this point in time , hundreds of times I've seen people do no fap or give up porn and then guess what I say to them All right , congratulations . It's been two months since you last jerked off . How many women have you talked to ? none . Why are you going out there and talking to women ? fuck , because it's really scary .

Speaker 1 6:13

And I actually thought if I just didn't jerk off , then I would be motivated . But it turns out , no . All of the fucking stress and all of the anxiety and the fear and the approach anxiety and all of that , that's still there . That didn't go away just because I stopped touching my willy . It's still there , maybe even more now , because at least the jerking off was a form of self medication that I could kind of make myself feel a tiny bit better .

Speaker 1 6:35

Now I just have to face this fear of going to talk to women , and this is even scary enough . Yeah , i have seen in reverse so many times and I myself obviously did it in reverse where you just say all right , i have vices , i'm not a perfect human being , i waste time , i don't do everything as efficiently or , so to speak , correctly as I want to do , but I'm going to shut up and go outside and talk to women as well , even though I jerked off today and now I have less motivation , doesn't matter . I'm just going to go outside and give myself permission to suck and maybe just talk to one woman . I'll just walk around and think about , i'll push myself to try and talk to one woman . If I can't , that's fine . I'll go out again tomorrow and try again and I'll just keep trying again And it sort of starts to gain momentum .

Speaker 1 7:17

You talk to a couple of women , you have some success , maybe gone , some dates , maybe you even have a bit of sex and you meet some wonderful women , you have some great connections , and then you go , man , this would be even easier if I looked at less porn right now , i would actually be more motivated to do this thing . That's already given me success . All right , let's do it . you now have a reason to look at porn less , or to drink less alcohol or to watch less TV . You have a reason , a motivation . You have the carrot , so to speak , rather than the stick . You have evidence that you are getting success Because you're taking the action . You're then way more motivated to get more success because you go . This already feels good , man . Imagine if I was getting 10 times as much as of this . I would feel 10 times as good , holy shit , like I don't want to look at porn anymore . You now don't want to look at porn . You don't want to drink as much alcohol .

Speaker 1 8:09

I'm telling you , as someone who struggled with vices my entire fucking life , i have a very addictive personality . I really really struggled in the past because I wasn't taking action on my goals and I had nothing to live for . I had no motivating force to help me Do less of the vices or give them up entirely in some cases . Now that I'm working on goals and I have been for the last what like 10 years Now that I have those driving forces and those successes . Do you know how much easier it was to give up alcohol ? Because it's like , holy shit , alcohol is getting the way of me doing content , it's getting the way of my coaching calls . What if I just don't ? it's ruining my sleep . What if I just don't do it ? I could probably do more right , and I tested out for a week and then there's the exact direct result that giving it up literally gives me 10 times as much result . Holy shit , now I'm motivated , but a lot of you doing it backwards , as in you're giving up , you're trying to give up your vices before you're even taking action on your goals .

Speaker 1 9:05

If you go two weeks without your vice , nothing really fucking changes . You're still in the exact same position . Your life isn't necessarily any better . You haven't taken more action . Because you're not taking any action , your life doesn't change . You don't get 10 times the results . You were already getting zero results and now you continue to get zero results because 10 times 0 is 0 . And so you can see how if you flip that and start taking action now , despite your vices , then if you do go a couple of days without your vices , you'll see double or triple or 10 times the results and you go holy shit , now I have evidence that this vice is actually getting in the way . And if I can just reduce it or even give it up entirely but hey , i'm just happy with a reduction . If I can reduce this vice , i'll probably get my results . You do that and you're like , oh shit , it's true , i am getting more results . Damn , now I'm committed to this thing because I have a fucking motivational reason .

Speaker 1 10:00

So , again , i really want to drill it into you , guys and girls There's nothing , there isn't a lot . How do I phrase this ? The biggest separator between you and me is just that I have taken action . I'm not better than you , i'm not more special than you . I don't have something you don't have . I have just taken action on my goals . I have made this so abundantly clear in so many videos . I have so many vices . I spend so much time not working on my goals . I am lazy , i am undisciplined . I waste hours a day on YouTube , on videos , on games , on just waste like not doing anything , but then I also spend hours a day taking action and I don't beat myself up for my vices . I really , really , really want to drill something in that .

Speaker 1 10:43

One of my coaching clients said when we had this big conversation this is a conversation we had in the coaching group recently one of the guys said I'm starting to realize that I can still achieve things despite my vices . He was someone that had told himself I have to give up all my vices and be a perfect , disciplined little monk . I have to be an alpha male Chad who is in stoic and in full control of everything he does before I can achieve goals . He started realizing fuck man , i can still have these vices and be an imperfect human being and still get shit done . If you look at the honest people who have reached massive goals , probably the first one that comes to mind is Alex Homozy is someone that's very honest , and his wife , layla Homozy . They're very honest about the fact that they're not perfect , that they can be lazy . They recently did a vlog that was like a day in the life of us and , yeah , it's very clear that they're lazy . Alex watches hours a day of Netflix . The difference is he also then gets like eight hours of work done . I don't even get eight hours of work done . I probably get four or five hours of work done every day , and yet look at all I have managed to do .

Action Over Vices for Success

Speaker 1 11:46

If I sat there and said , man , i have these vices , so therefore I don't deserve to be successful until I give them up , i never would have fucking started . I never would have achieved everything Again , everything I have done over the last eight to 10 years , all the sex or the threesomes or the wild stories , all of the financial abundance , all of that cool stuff losing weight , making friends , building this audience , helping a ton of you all of that stuff has come despite my vices . And so what I said to this coaching client of mine is yeah , man , success doesn't require you to have no vices . Success just requires you to take action . That is all success or achievement asks of you . It literally just asks did you do the thing ? That's it .

Speaker 1 12:29

It doesn't say did you do the thing without success or achievement ? Did you do the thing without vices ? Did you do the thing 100% of the time ? Did you not waste a single second on vices or something else or wasting time or ill discipline ? It doesn't give a shit how much time you waste . You have enough hours in the day and I'm not giving you permission to sit there and waste time , but I sit there and waste time . So maybe I am giving you permission to sit there and waste time . I just have never beaten myself up for it , because I'm like I also did five hours of work today . What do I give a shit that I looked at YouTube for three hours . I got my five hours of work done . That's five hours more than most of you . How many of you can put your hand up and say I did five hours of work today and every day previously for the last eight years ? No , success is literally just take baby steps every day . Get a bit of action , or take a little bit of action , get a little bit done . Do it over a long enough time period , that's it . Success is literally just action times , time , that's it .

Speaker 1 13:27

And so many of you are putting the cart before the horse and saying I will get more done if I just beat this addiction . No , get more done and then you will be motivated to beat the addiction or to just lower it Again . I haven't given up all of my vices . Most of them I still have in small amounts . The only one I've really given up right now is alcohol , 100% . Haven't had a drink in like two and a half years , but all the rest . No , they're still there to some extent . I just don't care .

Speaker 1 13:53

And all the time that a lot of you spend beating yourselves up , anytime you slip it back into the vice , you will spend hours a day beating yourself up and you'll literally waste time beating yourself up saying I'm so stupid , what's wrong with me , why am I doing this ? How do I quit this ? I need to go and research for five hours on nofap and talk to everybody . What if you had spent that five fucking hours taking action ? Then you would just be a guy with a porn addiction or a jerking off addiction who also takes action . But do you know how many successful people are alcoholics Or look at porn or drink too much or don't sleep very well or drink too much caffeine or take fucking cocaine and drugs or whatever ? And again , i'm not advocating that you do that , but I guess I kind of am . I'm saying it's not the worst thing in the world . If you do those things . You can slowly lower them over time .

Speaker 1 14:39

That is my mission . My mission is to , yes , eventually give up my vices , but my main mission is success . I don't know about all of you , but I would rather be successful and happy and fulfilled than be this perfect little Buddhist monk One day . I want to be that . Yes , absolutely , but that is something that is earned . And if that is your main absolute goal like I want to give up all my vices , go for it . I really hope this doesn't come across as me saying not to give up your vices , but the vast majority of you are giving up your vices because you think it will make you more successful . So you care about success . That is your main priority . You care about goals , but you've somehow put the cart before the horse . You've been led down this road of thinking man , if I could just be a Buddhist monk , it would be easier to achieve my goals . No , if you were the man or the woman that takes action , it would be easier to achieve your goals .

Speaker 1 15:25

Again , i'll really draw this in Success just requires you to take action over a long enough period of time . That's it . It just requires you to do the thing . A lot of you are not doing the thing because you're procrastinating and saying I'll do the thing later , once I've given up my vices , i'll do the thing . It's like no motherfucker , you're gonna have to do the thing at some point . By your own admission , you will have to do the thing at some point . Why not start right now And then , by the time you do get to a point where you don't have vices , you would have already spent months or years working on success , taking action . You will already have built a habit as being the man or the woman that takes action , and then , when you do have less vices , you will be turbo charging on that action . You will achieve 10,000 times more . So don't put the cart before the horse

Coaching and Taking Action

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Speaker 1 16:12

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Speaker 1 16:41

Ladies and gentlemen , take action . Don't worry as much about the vices . Now , obvious caveats would be if you're like , literally addicted to heroin or something and you keep waking up in a gutter or you're so drunk that you get into fights with people and you think that it's a danger to your life or other people . There are exceptions , but for the vast majority of you , you've gotten it caught up that you have to be this Buddhist monk that's just stoic and perfect all the time and has no vices . No , i will drill it into you one more time . Everything that I have achieved over the last 10 years , i did it while having a lot of vices . You don't have to give up your vices completely . You just have to take action . Go out there , take action and crush your goals .