The Trap of Comfort

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Comfort makes more prisoners than all the jails combined . Most people are pretty damn comfortable in their lives , even though their life might be average or even mediocre . They'll say they're unhappy . They'll complain about their problems . They'll tell you that they want more from life , but they do nothing to actually start making that happen . They take no action . They're comfortable with where their life is currently . Their words might be saying that they're not happy , but their actions are indicating that they are perfectly content living this perfectly average life . Otherwise they'd do something to change it .

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My friend calls this state of I say I'm unhappy , but yet I don't do anything to change comfortably uncomfortable . These people are uncomfortable about the fact that they know they could have a better life , but yet they're comfortable with the status quo . They are uncomfortable with all of the celebrities , entrepreneurs , influencers and other people around them who are winning . They're uncomfortable seeing people who look better than them and have a better body than them . They are uncomfortable seeing people who love what they do for work and are living a life that's true to themselves . They are uncomfortable with an average or mediocre sex life , or they're uncomfortable with being single , while everyone else seems to be living amazing , fulfilling relationships built on intimacy , connection , love and joy . They are definitely very uncomfortable And yet they're also quite comfortable where they are . They're almost stuck where they are . Their bills are paid , they have some friends , a job , things seem okay and nothing really that awful is happening . Their level of discomfort is not yet bad enough to compel them to actually change anything . But that uncomfortable feeling of I could do more builds up and builds up until one day they go . You know what fuck this ? I'm going to go to the gym . I'm sick of looking in the mirror and not liking who I am . I'm sick of not living up to my potential . I know I can do and be more , and so they go to the gym .

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They go for a couple of days and then it starts to hurt . Maybe it becomes difficult , or maybe their insecurities start coming out and they don't know how to deal with them . Maybe they hit their first real challenge that requires a bit of perseverance and not quitting . In other words , they get to a point that takes a little bit of effort . Some of them just quit in that moment , going straight back to their comfortably uncomfortable life . Some of them push through that discomfort and use willpower , but then after a couple more weeks . They run out of juice or motivation . Their legs hurt , they're tired . They have less time for other things that they got to do before . They feel like they've had to give up a bunch of things in order to make time for this new gym habit . They've had to make a couple of sacrifices and re-prioritize a few things in their life . They feel like they have now lost something .

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They ask themselves how happy am I right now ? Before , when they were living their comfortably uncomfortable life , i was probably a 6 out of 10 in terms of happiness . But now my legs hurt , i'm tired , i'm spending all this time in the gym and it sucks . Now I'm like a 2 out of 10 in terms of happiness . This fucking sucks . I've gone down in happiness . I don't get to eat my cakes like I used to . Now I have to eat all this healthy food . I miss stuffing my face with all the yummy foods I got to eat before . I miss being able to relax after a hard day's work without having to go to the gym . I miss self-medicating . I miss life just being easier . Now , whenever I have a bad day , i don't even get to self-medicate and make myself feel better with cake or alcohol or video games or whatever else , cause those things would conflict with me trying to lose weight and trying to be a better version of myself . Now I'm like a 2 out of 10 in terms of happiness , and before I was a 6 . This must be a scam . Maybe the gym is a scam , or maybe this just isn't for me . Maybe I'm not the kind of person who can go to the gym And they'll go back to their comfortably uncomfortable life because it seems easier .

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But the thing they don't realise is that if they had just pushed through , they would have eventually become an 8 out of 10 in happiness , maybe even a 9 out of 10 in happiness , and the entire rest of their life would be amazing . The world would open up for them , they could have and do and be whatever they wanted , and they could live an amazing life full of abundance . But they quit too early , before the payoffs actually started to happen , and they also didn't realize that now that they've gone back to their comfortably uncomfortable life , this whole cycle will just repeat itself A year or two from now . they'll go Man , my life isn't what I want it to be . Maybe I should think about going back to the gym again . They will use willpower and motivation again . They will push themselves for a few weeks , but it will get hard again and then they'll quit again . This is why most people do New Year's resolutions And then they fail them five weeks later . Then they repeat that cycle every fucking year . They use all that discomfort of the past year where they didn't achieve anything . They get themselves fired up and they go Okay , this is the year that I change , i'm sick of being comfortable , let's go . And then a couple of weeks later they quit again . Many of you right now are in that period of discomfort .

Speaker 1 5:53

In the first few weeks or months of your self-improvement journey , you're asking yourself is this for me ? Can I really do this ? Can I really make it ? Can I actually improve ? You're a two out of 10 in terms of happiness . It feels like life has gotten harder since you signed up for this self-improvement thing . You're asking yourself if you should stick it out and continue or go back to your comfortable life , because , after all , it wasn't that bad right ? I want you to listen to me . There is glory waiting

Don't Quit

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for you .

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If you just don't fucking quit , if you hang in there , life will become a three out of ten , then a four out of ten , then a five , then a six , and before you know it you'll be a seven in terms of happiness , greater than you were before . Then you will blitz past that and be sitting at an eight or a nine , and one day you'll wake up and realize you're a ten out of ten and there's nothing more you could possibly wish for . Everything else you achieve for the rest of your life is just a beautiful bonus . That is what is waiting for you Glory , goals , happiness , achievement , gratitude , love , joy , giving back , making the world a little better , being present , enjoying what you have . That is all waiting for you . But if you quit now , you will just go back to the life you already know wasn't really making you happy . Otherwise you wouldn't have jumped on the self-improvement train in the first place . So be brave , don't quit . Hang in there and see this thing through .

Speaker 1 7:26

So many other people have been in your position and they fucking quit . They throw themselves back into the cycle of New Year's resolutions , complacency , unhappiness , plugging themselves back into the matrix and sometimes even existential hell . Other people have been in your position and they just stuck it out , hanging in there and hoping , praying , begging to the gods that it would get better And if they hung in there for them , it did get better . You know most of these people . I've interviewed a lot of them on my podcast . I've talked about them in articles and YouTube videos . I've shared their struggles and their triumphs . You can be amongst them . You can become one of the greats If you just keep pushing forward and being that unrelenting badass I know you can be . I believe in you . Now go outside and take action .