The Power of Consistency in Self-Improvement

Speaker 1 0:00

Hey people , i am on something like day six , i think , of my 100 minutes times 100 days challenge , which is where I've challenged myself to sit down and record 100 minutes of content every single day for 100 days in a row . And today is one of those days where and these days do come up in life where I don't really feel like it . I feel like laying on the couch playing some Zelda , playing some video games , not really doing very much of anything . And these days happen a lot in our self-improvement journey . How many times have you been , if your goal is the gym , or maybe your goal is women or whatever it might be , how many days have you just said I don't really feel like it today and then you've chosen not to take action And nothing really bad happens . You wake up the next day and you go and do take action .

Speaker 1 0:52

But the people who or one of the cheat codes in self-improvement , one of the cheat codes in life and the people that achieve the biggest things , are able to just be a little bit more consistent . They're not better than you , they're just more consistent than you . Consistency is the number one fucking cheat code , and I myself have not always been great at consistency . I think I've definitely been above average . I have had so many days where I didn't want to do content , but I just made myself do it , and I was always , always , always glad I did . There has never been a single exception to that , and so that in itself is one of the cheat codes that you can use When you don't want to go to the gym or you don't want to talk to girls or you don't want to work on your business . You just remind yourself that if I do this thing , i will be glad I did it . After I've done it , i'll be really happy that I did , i will feel better , and so I'm almost making a short term . It's not a sacrifice , it's more like a choice , but I'm making a short term choice right now to push myself through this thing that I don't really want to do , and I will feel better at the end . And so this is kind of a meta podcast , and I've done a few like this in the past , actually over the last like three years of doing content . It's a meta podcast about what to do when you don't actually feel like doing , you know , work on your goal or work on your self-improvement . And so I told myself . If I just hit the record button and whatever happens happens , and if it's great , it's great . If it's not so good , it's not so good , that's fine . In other words , giving myself permission to suck , but if you just fucking actually get started half the time like something magical happens , it actually ends up working out . I just did an interview on my YouTube channel which might be up by the time you hear this podcast so you can go and check my channel for that With a guy called Jack who I've had on there before .

Speaker 1 2:42

He was one of my old coaching clients and he recently had a threesome , And so he came on to tell this story of his threesome with two girls that he met in a bar And took them both home and had sex with both of them . And what you take away from this entire story as you listen to jack talking is he didn't really do anything special . He just kind of showed up And he really didn't want to . He was on the verge of quitting the previous night . He'd gone out and something like 20 women in a row didn't want to talk to him and some of them weren't super nice to him because he went out clubbing and Women and , i guess guys to people in clubs can be there on drugs , right that clubs alcohol is drugs , they're literally on drugs . So they're not always the most kind rational people right there on drugs . So he'd had this really not so great night and he was really close to quitting And something inside him just said what if I just go out again ? and what if I just show up ? like literally I just go to a bar and I show up ? what if I just fucking show up and see what happens ? And he ended up having this crazy wild night he had a threesome . And I've had so many nights like that or so many days like that in my own self improvement journey where I've just said I don't really want to do this , i don't want to meet this girl , i can't be bothered , like what's the point ? she's probably just going to reject me anyway . And then I have the best day or the best night of my life .

Speaker 1 4:04

I wrote an article which is on my website on kill your inner loser dot com , called always keep an open mind , and I showed some screenshots of conversations that I had with friends before one particular date Where I just texted my friend and I was like I can't be bothered going on this date . Man like maybe I should cancel , i don't want to . And he said just go , just go and see what happens . Imagine you have an amazing night and then you get to reference this conversation . This is me telling you right now to go shoot your shot and just see what happens . And I promise you , well , there's a very good chance it'll be amazing . And then you see my follow up text to him a few hours later . I was like bro , thank you , thank you for telling me to go . This was amazing . So I have that screenshot in the article and that's happened many , many , many times .

Speaker 1 4:50

There's been so many times I don't want to sit down and do something , or I don't want to go out with someone . I don't want to go to a party or I don't want to go to the gym . I don't want to work on myself as improvement . There's been tons of times recently where I'm about to sit down on a podcast with someone in like interview them or talk to them , and in my brain I'm like I can't be bothered , like It's probably not going to be a good interview . I don't want to . And then I'll take a deep breath , remind myself there's a very good chance this turns out to be an amazing fucking podcast , i'll sit down , i'll do it . And then afterwards I'm like holy shit , that was amazing . And if you think in your own life there will be so many times that you've done exactly that that you're like I don't want to do this thing . You push yourself to do it anyway and afterwards you're like holy shit , thank God . I pushed myself , so , realizing or reminding yourself that the future you is probably going to benefit from this decision current . You has to make that choice or that sacrifice , if you want to call it that . Make that fucking choice or that sacrifice . You're giving a gift to your future self .

Speaker 1 5:46

Other things I wanted to talk about this very casual , very impromptu , very chill podcast that we're doing here . I've been getting some really nice fucking comments and I've always gotten lots of nice comments . You guys are unbelievably kind , you guys and girls but I've been getting some some good comments lately that have just really fucking been nice . And I've gotten a few emails and I read some of them out . From time to time I try and tell you guys that I'm grateful , but I really just want to underline my gratitude that I get to sit here and do these podcasts and Try and help people , and you know that's all I've ever really tried to do . I'm not perfect , i'm not amazing , none of that shit , but I'm just a guy No fucking hair , and he said He's done some cool shit and I'm just trying to help you guys and girls do the same shit , and I can't believe That my bills are paid . I can't believe that I get to live this really cool life . I can't believe that all of you open up and share your own vulnerabilities and your stories and The hardships you've gone through and how you've overcome them . I can't believe that now our audience is growing in terms of women and now it's something like 7% of the audience are women , whereas when I started this , it was like 0.5% of the audience are women . So I'm incredibly humbled by that , particularly when a lot of my advice is obviously directed particularly at guys . I'm just so unbelievably humbled that any of you give a shit and listen and read my articles and go on my YouTube . I'm fucking incredibly grateful that I .

The Privilege of Freedom and Abundance

Speaker 1 7:18

This is something I've only ever asked for like two or three times , and it's not really even something that I Expected . There's like 60 fucking five-star reviews on my spot on this Spotify podcast when I never even fucking asked for them . I checked the other day and I was like holy shit , there's like 60 . I've only ever asked like twice and The first time I ever asked there was already like 40 . Do you know how fucking unbelievably nice that is like to just Have you guys share so much of your own gratitude and love and , like I said , the courage to share your stories and your journeys ?

Speaker 1 7:51

I really do wake up some days and it's so fucking surreal Because I remember how it felt to go to work every day and , you know , have to work a job . I didn't have to work a job clearly like I'm now proving that but I thought I had to . I Was a cog in the machine . I was in the matrix , plugged into the matrix , i was working that nine to five grand . I wasn't fucking happy , or I was happy enough , but like I wasn't happy doing that , i wanted to do my own shit .

Speaker 1 8:16

And now I get to wake up and just do whatever the fuck I want . There's no agenda , there's no schedule . Obviously I have coaching calls and shit like that . So I do have like a schedule , but I get to set that schedule . I can just at any point in time say , hey , I'm gonna take a week off , and that's not something I do very often . Last week I actually did take a week off and it was the first time I have had a week or a couple of days even off in , like God , like three or four years . It was the first time I've actually had a bit of a break and it was fucking lovely . But I can set my own schedule . I can choose when I do coaching calls . I can Theoretically have a week off and do nothing , like I did last week , who ended up being like five days . I think I can have time off and do nothing and the wheels keep on turning . Do you know how fucking amazing that is ? and obviously I've put in the effort and the work over the last three years .

Speaker 1 9:07

Like I want to make it clear you don't just like wake up one day and all your bills are paid , like if any of you are on this entrepreneurial grind or on this journey of Helping other people and making money from it . Like it does take effort and time and consistency . You have to do a lot , but It's still such a fucking beautiful position that You can just do . At this point . I'm only doing a little bit every day . I'm doing a hundred minutes of content every day is not a lot . I can do a hundred minutes of content every day and do some coaching calls and shit on top of that in the bills of fucking paid .

Speaker 1 9:38

What a beautiful privileged and i mean privileged in the best sense of the word . I feel a deep sense of gratitude to be here and all of you are capable of that . All of you deserve that . All of you can have that if you want to . The same thing with women and dating or any women listening with having a deep , fulfilling relationship with a guy . If that's what you want , like , what you're allowed , whatever the hell you want . I at this point put literally zero effort into my dating life . In fact , my girlfriend image runs my tinder and my bumble accounts . I don't do anything . And what a fucking beautiful position that is that sex can kind of just flow freely . Intimacy can kind of flow , flow freely . My relationship with image and feels exactly the same . It feels like i don't have to put a lot of effort in .

Speaker 1 10:25

And the structures that we have set up and obviously there was a lot of initial investment . What i mean there is , we had to build the structures , we had to build communication , we had to Work through some of our disagreements and our problems and things like that . But now we're in this beautiful privileged position where Anytime she's upset about something , she just fucking tells me , and when i'm upset about something , i just fucking tell her and we solve the problem and like boom , we've solved the problem within an hour or two . We don't have these like week long arguments like i used to have in my old relationships when i have fights , when scream at each other we didn't say , things that we regret We don't ever train , hurt each other we don't like . Why would we ever want to do that ? and such a beautiful position , to be in This position of freedom , of abundance , of gratitude , of low drama and life just being easy . And i promise you , all of you are capable of that , if that's something you want , if that sounds appealing to you .

Speaker 1 11:17

Like you know , essentially free sex , essentially free intimacy , and now , again , there are things that i do every week . For those i've put the structures in place . I definitely put effort in , but It doesn't feel like effort even . It just feels like abundance , like it just kind of happens . It's like passive . I get passive . You know you've had a passive income . At this point i have passive sex . It feels like i have passive money . It feels like i have passive intimacy with my girlfriend . I'm obviously still doing things every single day and week , but They're fun to do . There are joy to do . I want to do them . I feel like i have set my life up . I've given myself permission and other people gave me permission as well Caleb jones , good looking loser , mark manson , dan hannery , alexa mozzi a bunch of people gave me the permission that i was seeking . They gave me permission and told me it was possible to have this like drama free , beautiful , wonderful , abundant live . And this podcast , i guess , is my attempt or it's morphed into my attempt to give you that same permission .

Speaker 1 12:13

The motto of my website is if i can do it , you sure as hell can too . Like I haven't done anything . That's fucking impossible for the average person . You might have a long journey to go . In my take years . It's so far . It has taken me about eight years To get to this point , longer . If you count my journey through depression and losing weight and all of that , then it would be something like 10 or 12 years . It's really not that fucking long and it's also not binary . It's not like you have to put in 10 years worth of effort and then suddenly get a payoff . You're getting a pay off the entire time . The last 10 years , especially the last eight years , especially the last five years , have just been fucking amazing , like fucking joyful . It's like constantly setting new bars and new goals and then achieving them and having your mind blown and go to holy shit . I didn't think that was possible . Oh my god , like what ? what is possible next ? like what i want to work on next . It's just such a fun , beautiful , amazing journey and i'm so unbelievably grateful to be on it .

Speaker 1 13:10

And To bring this back to the original point of i said you know , i've been getting some really nice comments and some nice emails , and i've always got nice comments and emails from you guys and girls . But , like Just lately , some of them have just like been fucking great , and like one in particular , you know a guy . Just he wrote a bunch of shit but he said , actually i don't know if it's a guy or a girl , i gotta stop making that , or i want to stop making that assumption actually , cuz , like i said , there's way more women on the channel . But this person said you know , blah , blah , blah . A bunch of stuff like thank you for your videos , even though they're not getting as many views as they would deserve , i beg you to continue doing them , huge value . And i read that and i wrote back and said you know , i really appreciate that . Thanks so much .

Speaker 1 13:51

But i read that i'm like Damn , like why what would have to happen for me not to do these videos or these podcasts or my articles or you know content , helping people like I wake up every day and , like i said , it's a privilege and i mean that in the good sense of the word , such a privilege to be able to just sit here and talk into a fucking microphone and some of you will change your lives because i just said some words , i just made some noise at you . This is so surreal to me at times . I just made some noise to you and then you took some of that and changed your life . That's fucking crazy to me , especially because at this point and to tie it into this guy's or this girl's comment , you know I beg you to continue doing them . Yeah , like it's so . It's so unbelievably fun for me to do these . It brings me so much I almost feel Not guilty . But I think a lot of you assume that you're getting a lot out and obviously , like you know , i'm sure you do get a lot out of these . But I think you assume , like you're the ones that get a lot out of this and you know , i'm just doing this , i don't know doing this for you guys are doing this because I make money . You're Doing this to pay the bills or doing this to get rich or something like that . No , i get so fucking much out of just sitting down here and like talking and helping people and sharing my ideas a Big part of the reason why I got into writing and content and then later on YouTube and podcasts because I didn't want my ideas to die .

Gratitude and Future Goals

Speaker 1 15:17

Like I had been through so much stuff . I had suffered , i had gone through pain , i had gone through misery , i'd gone through depression and suicidal thoughts and I'd overcome all this shit and I'd learned all of this and I didn't want all Of that to be for nothing . I didn't want the information that was in my head and the things that I had learned . I didn't want that to die with me . I thought of you know that scared little boy when he was 14 years old who was depressed and suicidal and like that continued till I was like 21 , 22 or whatever it was like I Didn't want all that pain to just be lost and I didn't like the idea of somebody else going through that same pain or the existential Hell or that misery or that suffering or that doubt or that insecurity . I didn't want that person to have to suffer again after I'd already suffered .

Speaker 1 16:01

And so I I feel like this is For want of a better word like my calling , like I can't envision a world in which I don't just continue sharing my ideas . If you Got to hang out with Imogen and I , if you were like a fly on the wall , or if you hung out with me and my friends like in real life , you would see like 95% of what I do is just like sharing shit that I've learned or talking about ideas or discussing philosophies . It's like I can't Stop that . It's like a of a force , it or a tap that just doesn't fucking turn off . And so the idea of , like you know , i beg you to continue doing your videos , i can't imagine not like The ideas are in my head and it's like they need to get out . It's like I have a fucking need to get these goddamn ideas out , and so again , i really just want to say I'm Unbelievably grateful that you right now are listening . Like I almost feel like if no one listened , i'd probably still do this , and I do .

Speaker 1 17:01

I fucking just talk to Imogen She's one person and obviously she's a very special person to me , but like she's just one person or just talk to a random fucking stranger about some idea that I've had , or oh , like I Can't help it , and so I'm so unbelievably grateful that any of you listen . I'm even more grateful that you then take that and improve your life , and I'm then even more grateful that you come back and tell me what you have done . That's a beautiful gift in itself , and I feel like I'm the one that's receiving at every single part of that . I Get to receive something beautiful . It's a gift that I'm getting , that I get to just even talk , like at all . That's amazing , that's beautiful to me . It's then a gift that you fucking listen . That feels like I win again or I benefit again . It's a beautiful , amazing gift .

Speaker 1 17:46

And then you come back a lot of you and tell me what you have done and That you tell me that you're grateful to more gifts that I get . I get to hear your journey and be part of that , or have you shared parts of that with me ? and then you tell me you're grateful And I'm just sitting here at every step of that Interaction , at every step of that process , and going what the fuck you're grateful ? Are you fucking kidding me ? I'm grateful and then on top of that I get to pay the bills from this and then on top of that , i get to make a decent chunk of money and one day I suspect one day , or at least it's my goal one day I'm gonna be making a fuck ton of money And then I'm gonna pour that money back into helping you guys again and trying to get you more money and hiring Editors and paying other people . And I want to do . I have big grand projects for this community and for you know , all of the audience and all of us .

Speaker 1 18:35

I want to eventually do things like once a month I give away I don't know five thousand or ten thousand dollars , if You like . Like to whoever has the best , i guess you would say the best plan for the money . Like you know , someone says listen , i really want to start this business . It would change my fucking life . Like Here's my plan , here's what I've done so far . I've already taken action . You know , i think I would be a good candidate for the ten thousand dollars . Like I want to just be able to give away fucking money like that . Like that to me just is so unbelievably fucking cool as a concept , because I know how hard I had to suffer and how much I had to go through to build this business up and to be able to pay the bills . It took like three years of specially during the lockdowns and shit . Like guys , how many people do you think sign up for dating and sex advice During the covert lockdowns ? like fucking nobody , right who's going out there to have sex ? like nobody . And so I really fucking struggled And it would have been amazing , like like I think how much it would have meant to me if someone had given me ten thousand dollars and said here you go , put this to good use . So I want to be able to do the same fucking thing .

Speaker 1 19:39

And you know , someone else might say My mother has cancer or some shit and she can't afford her treatment . I live in a third world country . We just don't have money . Ten thousand dollars would legitimately change my mother's life . Here's a picture of her , his , me and her together . Like I would love to just be able to be like . Here's ten grand , here you go . Like tell your mom I love her . Like I hope that she's , you know , improves and gets better .

Speaker 1 20:02

Or someone else might say , man , like ten thousand dollars would mean I could change all my clothes , i could Pay a personal trainer , i could really throw myself into self improvement , i could do this and this and this . That would just change my life . Man , like all my life I've been poor and I've never been able to afford that shit . Like I just think how much that would improve my life . I'd love to just be able to throw ten thousand dollars at that person . I'd love to give more money to my good friend cam , who's my assistant coach in my coaching program . You know he does such an insane amount of effort And I'm already paying him . He's able to pay his bills from his own ventures . He runs his mother's YouTube channel . He does a ton of shit with me . He obviously coaches in my coaching program and so he can already pay the bills from those couple of things . But I would love to be able to give him more money and say , like dude , like I just want to say thank you for all you've done , because he's absolutely earned it .

Speaker 1 20:52

So I have big goals for money and what I'm gonna do with it . I feel so unbelievably grateful that those goals are even possible for me . Literally just sitting here , talking like guys , i'm sitting in this room right now . It's dark , i've got all the lights off , i'm just talking into a goddamn microphone And look at all the shit that comes back to me from doing that . So I can't even begin to say how grateful I am to all of you . You know you can say , please continue doing these videos in these podcasts , like I absolutely am going to . Are you kidding me ? like I can't envision a world in which I didn't .

Speaker 1 21:28

I have massive plans for this community , for you guys and for you girls . I have talked a little bit , you know , about where I want things to go . I want to do more content about business , about money , about financial freedom is not just really about making money . It's what the money gets you like . Money doesn't mean jack shit , it's what you do with it . And so I've got massive goals for that .

Speaker 1 21:48

I have big goals . I want to talk a lot more about enlightenment , spirituality , for sure . I want to get people on the podcast eventually . I'm not doing interviews and stuff right now because I'm I just don't really have the time for it , but Eventually , when I have more time , when I'm doing less coaching , i want to be able to have like spiritual gurus and shit on the channel . I want to talk like metaphysical stuff . I want to talk philosophy more . I want to just explore the depths of human knowledge and sort of be open to Everybody's unique truth and perspective and all of that .

Speaker 1 22:18

I want this content . I want our community to just eventually be like a very fucking open minded self improvement community . Self improvement will always be number one . Like taking action will always be the number one focus of my content . And Like me , because that just is my biggest principle like I just have a growth mindset . I always want to be learning and growing . But That second thing I said is the second most important focus of my channel and my life it's learning . Like I just want to fucking learn . I want to learn from everybody . I want to hear from everybody , even if we don't agree with their opinion . I don't give a shit like . I just want to hear their opinion and see what their truth is and see what truth means to them and What their rule book is in life and their opinions and all of that . I'm just so unbelievably excited that I'm in a position Where we get to explore that right . Right , we get to just sit here and say , like , what is fucking truth ? like , like , how do we improve ourselves ? like what are the different aspects of our life that we can improve ? so I am unbelievably excited , unbelievably grateful . I love all of you very much .

Speaker 1 23:21

If there's anything that you struggle with or you feel uncertain about , probably the easiest way to get in touch with me is leave a comment on any of my YouTube videos . I go and reply or at least read , like everything . It's really the easiest way to get in touch with me . You can also hit me up on Twitter . Just search for K Y I L , underscore Andy . You can just type in killer in a loser , i guess . Search for killer in a loser on Twitter . You can shoot me a message . I only check that like once a week or so , but I will get back to , i promise .

Coaching and Support Offered

Speaker 1 23:53

Probably the easiest way of getting in touch with me can also hit me up for those two hundred dollar coaching calls 30 minutes we sit down . Sometimes they go for longer than 30 minutes , but we will tell ourselves it's only gonna be 30 minutes . 30 minute coaching calls for $200 . I'll happily sit down with you and talk about stuff . Otherwise , i obviously have a big coaching program . If you feel like you want Lots and lots and lots of access to me and cam , that's the best way to do it . I've mentioned this before . I am slowly putting my price up over time , but If you sign up now , we're locking that price that we're at right now .

Speaker 1 24:26

But Yeah , don't sit there and struggle by yourself . You know I definitely did that for years and years and years . I hate the idea of any of you guys and girls sitting there struggling in silence . Please reach out to me . If money is an issue , i have payment plans . If you really don't have money like if you don't even have $200 for a coaching call Hey , go on the forums like they're completely free . The guys in the girls on there are really fucking . Actually I don't know if we have any girls on the forums . Most of the women are in the YouTube comments or they hit me up for coaching . But go on the forums . Great bunch of people women are welcome on the forums , by the way , like I'll make that clear as well . But , yeah , go on the forums . They're very supportive environment . Hit me up for coaching if you would like that . Hit me up on YouTube or Twitter .

Speaker 1 25:12

And I want all of you to know again the millionth time I'm gonna say it on this podcast I really fucking appreciate all of you . Like you cannot even Like you cannot even begin to understand how fucking great for a am . Like maybe I will call this podcast . I am grateful . I think I was gonna call it the most casual podcast ever , but maybe I'll just call it I am grateful for all of you , cuz I am so . I want all of you to go out there . I want all of you to be happy , live amazing lives , work on those goals , achieve big things , live a fulfilling life to you , whatever that might mean to you , have a good time doing it and crush those goals . And if any of you are feeling a little lonely , a little unworthy , a little undeserving and a little unloved , i love you .