Abundance Mentality

Speaker 1 0:00

Ladies and abundant human beings . Andy , here I went from depressed and suicidal to living a life of sexual and financial abundance and joy . If I can do it , you sure as hell can too . So let's talk about abundance mentality , and it's a topic that I talk about quite a lot . I talk about love , about feeling like you have enough , about not being needy , about not trying to get things from other people and instead trying to give . I talk about all of these sort of concepts .

Speaker 1 0:29

But one of the ways that you can generate abundance mentality and it's a nice little cheat code you can use in every moment when you're talking to someone is you ask yourself the question what if I didn't need anything from this person ? What if I didn't even need them to respond to me or even acknowledge what I said or give me a good reaction ? How would I act then ? As an example , let's say you're sitting there thinking of what to text a girl or like what to talk about on a date , and you're sort of stressing and overthinking and thinking you know what's the perfect text . Blah , blah , blah . Ask yourself the question what if I didn't need anything from her right now ? Nothing at all ? How would I act ? What would I text her . You know you might think , okay , i don't need anything from her . But a lot of the time it's subconscious , it's things like I want her to like me , or I don't want her to think I'm stupid , or I want her to be attracted to me , or I don't want to say something dumb . All of that is , in a subconscious way . You trying to get something from her , you're trying to get a certain reaction , or you're trying to get her to like you , or you're trying to get her to not think that you're stupid . That is the opposite of abundance mentality . Like part of neediness , which is obviously the opposite of abundance mentality , is needing a certain reaction from other people And we often don't realize we're doing this . And it's not just in the dating , you know , arena , it's often just in life in general . You know , we're worried about what strangers on a bus might think of us . We're worried about what our coworkers will think of us , and all of that is us trying to get something from them . We're trying to get a certain reaction or we're trying to get them to like us or get them to not think that we're silly . And if you removed all of that ? going back to the dating example . What if you removed all of that and you didn't need this girl to like you , you didn't need her to think that you're clever or smart or interesting or cool , if you didn't need her to sleep with you , if you didn't need a positive reaction hell , if you didn't even need her to reply to your fucking text message what would you do and how would you act ? And then you just act like that . It can be hard to do this at first , because all sorts of things might come up of , like fears of what if she judges you ? What if she doesn't respond to your text message ? What if she doesn't give you the answer you want ? But you sort of just practice letting all of that go and saying what if I didn't need anything ? What if I didn't even need her to respond to me ? What if I'm not even entitled to a reaction from her ? What if I'm not even entitled to a reply ? and you're not ?

Speaker 1 3:07

But a lot of the time we get caught up and we think that we are entitled . I see this sometimes as a content creator . People will leave comments and then get a little bit frustrated , and it doesn't happen too often . You guys and girls are mostly pretty good . But sometimes someone will leave a comment and then get frustrated that I didn't reply immediately . You're not entitled to my reply .

Speaker 1 3:27

And if you can take that mindset and realize that you're not entitled to anything from anyone , ever not even respect , it's nice when people do respect you but you're not entitled to it . If we realize that we're not entitled to anything and there's nothing that other people must do for us or must give us , that's very freeing because then you don't get frustrated when the girl doesn't reply in the way that you want her to . Well , you don't get frustrated when that boy doesn't ever text you back and you're sitting there going . Is he gonna text me ? No , because you never expected it in the first place . You wanted it . It would have been nice if they did reply , it would have been amazing if they did give you what you want . But if they don't , hey , that's okay , you'll go and get it from someone else . So again , this applies to sex , it applies to dating , it applies to friendships , it applies to family , to work , anything that involves other people .

Speaker 1 4:15

If you can take on that mindset of they don't owe me anything and in a kind of way you can think of it like I said before . What if I just didn't need anything from them ? That really does free you up to then get that thing from either other people or yourself . And a lot of the time we're seeking these things or we're seeking things from other people like we're wanting validation . They're wanting , we're wanting them to tell us that we're smart or that we're good or we did a good job or we're amazing . We're looking for all of this shit . And then , when we don't get it from people , we feel frustrated , we see them as the enemy , we get annoyed , we feel rejected and all of this . I've said this a million times Nobody can reject you without your consent .

Speaker 1 4:55

And maybe another way of phrasing that is , if somebody else does reject you , hey , beautiful , that just frees you up to give yourself the thing that you were looking for from them , right ? If somebody else doesn't love you , hey , beautiful , that frees you up to learn to love yourself . If somebody else doesn't tell you that you're smart , hey , beautiful , go grab a piece of paper and write down 20 reasons why you're smart . Go looking for the evidence . Give that thing to yourself . If somebody else doesn't validate you , or strangers on the internet , don't validate you , or people don't like your post or nobody matches with you on Tinder , hey , beautiful , that frees you up to look in the mirror and say do you know what ? Maybe I'm good enough . and if you feel like you're not good enough , hey , work on the self-improvement . There's always that option as well .

Speaker 1 5:36

So it can be an amazingly freeing thing to happen to us or happen for us when people don't give us what we want , because then it frees us up to go and get that from ourselves . So to bring it all back in these moments where you feel like you're needy for a response or a certain type of response , or you're worried that they will dislike you and all of this kind of stuff , just ask yourself this really , really , really freeing question what if I didn't need anything from this person ? what if I didn't need them to like me ? I didn't need them to respond to me , i didn't even need them to be nice to me , i didn't even need them to acknowledge my presence . What if I literally don't even need them to acknowledge me ? how would I act then ?

The Power of Letting Go

Speaker 1 6:19

and you'll find that you're often much more loving in that state , because now you realize you have everything that you need . You don't need anything from them . You can just give it to yourself , or you can go and ask other people for it until you find someone that is willing to give it to you . You don't need anything from this person , and that frees you up to no longer take from them . You no longer trying to take from them , you're just free . You're abundant , you have everything you need , and in that moment it's much easier to be loving , to be kind , and , ironically , you end up getting what you want more . Because you're just a chill , calm person who isn't needy , who isn't trying to get something from someone all the time , who isn't desperate for validation , who isn't desperate for an answer , who isn't desperate for the right type of answer that they're looking for . You're just chill . You become like a hippie libertarian . You know namaste , all is good , whatever shall be shall be . You become a nice , chill person that people , funnily enough , want to spend time with and want to give to , and so not only is this a lovely way of going through life , but you actually end up with a more abundant life by just telling yourself that you have an abundant life , or , in other words , by letting go of some of that neediness , by letting go of needing other people to react the way you want them to , or to give you what you want them to give you . So this is such a game changer .

Speaker 1 7:37

For more on this topic , i would recommend you read the book I need your love is that true ? by Byron Katie . A lot of these concepts come from that . A lot of these concepts also come from Buddhism . I've read and studied a hell of a lot of Buddhism over the years and Buddhism is a very , very , very similar concept . It's about not needing anything from people , letting go of attachment , giving yourself the things that you need , all of that kind of stuff . So read some Buddhism .

Speaker 1 8:02

Read I need your love is that true ? if you would like my help with this or anything else , i would love to coach you . I have just actually today , put my prices up . I told you that my prices are going to be going up with each new client that signed up . We've actually had four people sign up in the last two weeks , so they've just put my prices up and they're going to be going up again with the next person that signs up . So if you don't want to miss out on the current prices , highly recommend you jump on that right now , as always , ladies and gentlemen , go out there , crush those goals and remind yourself , or show yourself that you don't really need anything from anyone . You might want things from them . You know , we all have goals , we all have things that excite us , we all have ambitions , but you don't need anything from anyone , and realizing this can be so unbelievably liberating .