Speaker 1 0:00

Ladies , gentlemen , boys , girls and others . And here I went from depressed and suicidal to living a life of abundance and joy . If I can do it , you sure as hell can too . So a good friend of mine , my best friend , he and I have been on this spiritual journey to , I guess , remove our ego , remove this like desperate need for us to control everything and have everything go our own way . In other words , we've both been , over the last couple of years , moving towards a place of much more peace and much more just being chill and being open to whatever life hands us , you know , instead of trying to control and force everything .

Speaker 1 0:46

And one thing that he's been letting go off is his desperate need to get laid . He used to have this very strong , desperate need to get laid , which I think most , or a lot of guys do , a lot of people do , and he's been slowly letting go of that . And he went out on this date he met some girl at a festival actually , and over the course of an entire weekend they kind of got to know each other , spent a lot of time together and he invited her back to his place , you know , a week later and they cooked dinner together and they were about to start making out and they kissed a little bit and then she said I just don't know if I can go all the way with you . In other words , I don't know if I can do this . And he replied I have no expectations , only curiosity . They ended up falling around for a couple of hours and they kind of both just went with the flow and a couple of times she was a little nervous and she wanted to slow down and he just repeated to her I don't have any expectations , only curiosity . They ended up having sex and , you know , going further and having just a wonderful , amazing time . And when he told me this story I loved that quote .

Speaker 1 2:06

I have no expectations , only curiosity . So much that I ended up printing it out and framing it and it has sat in my apartment for the last year or so . It's something that's very meaningful to me and I look at it quite a lot . I find myself , you know , gazing at it whenever I'm wishing that things would go a certain way , or wishing that another client would sign up and give me money , or wishing Imogen would do something I want , or wishing someone else would do something I want , or expecting things to go a certain way , I will look at that quote and remind myself of what my friends said . I have no expectations , only curiosity . And this is such a beautiful mindset to embrace in life in general , but especially with dating .

Speaker 1 2:55

When you're if you're a guy and you're hitting on women have no expectations , just curiosity . When you see a woman , don't have any expectations of how it should go or what she should say , or what the conversation should be like , or what you should do . You know , let go of those expectations of her and of yourself and everything , and just be curious . Go over there and be curious about what she might be like , about how the conversation might go , about what you might be like during that conversation . Complete curiosity , no expectations , no pressure . If you're on a date and you want to invite her back to your place but you're nervous , rather than having expectations of what you want to happen , just have complete curiosity . Take a step back , take a deep breath and say I'll ask her to come back to mine and then I'm curious what happens after that . I'm curious if she says yes . I'm curious if she says no , I'm just curious . I want to see what happens Then if you end up going back to your place and you're about to have sex or about to start making out . Rather than worrying about what if she doesn't want to go all the way ? What if she stops me ? What if she wants to slow down ? What if she's not comfortable , have curiosity and just see what happens . And if you get halfway in and one or both of you are uncomfortable , that's beautiful . That'll just be an experience and you can be open to it .

Speaker 1 4:17

This mindset of I have no expectations , only curiosity is such a wonderful way to go through life because now you're open to all experiences , you can roll with the punches a lot better . You don't get bothered by people saying no to you or people doing something that you weren't expecting , or life throwing a spanner in the works , so to speak . If you have no expectations , you can never be disappointed . There was a quote that I said that came into my head today on the group coaching call that I was with my clients . I said if you always expect reality , then you can never be disappointed . In other words , expect reality to go . However reality wants to go . Expect people to do whatever people want to do . Expect things to just go the way that they go . And if you don't have any expectations of what should happen or what people should say or how you yourself should be . There is no disappointment , there's just curiosity , openness and , if anything , a little bit of laughter .

Speaker 1 5:21

Sometimes , when life does throw you a spanner in the works or you get all the way into the bedroom and a woman does say , hey , I don't want to go all the way , that's kind of funny because it wasn't expected .

Speaker 1 5:31

It's like ha , look at what life just threw me . And now I'm able to handle it because I didn't have any expectations . I wasn't trying to force it , I wasn't trying to control it , I was just open to whatever ended up happening . As always , ladies and gentlemen , go out there , crush those goals . And if you would like a little more help with this or anything else , I have two coaching options . You can either sit down with me for a one-on-one coaching call , a once-off coaching call , or you can join our big hardcore coaching program where we'll get in there , change your life , set you up for success for the rest of your life and let you be part of our beautiful , amazing accountability group for the rest of eternity , until you die , or the group shuts down . So we'd love to have you Links in the description below . To both of those . Have a wonderful , amazing , blessed , charmed day .